Without Winning, What's the Point?

Why start that business?  
Why bother going to college?  
Why attempt to get into a romantic relationship?  
What’s this all for anyway?

These are valid questions. We know the punchline to life—death. Yet very few have figured out the point of truly living. In the South, life is about Jesus, family, and career. But why those priorities, and why in that order?

Christians have contributed to global culture, with 63% of Americans identifying as Christian . This means a record number of people place their bets on the afterlife—heaven—as the ultimate plan B. But if plan B overshadows plan A, we’re headed for mediocrity. The saying “Failing to plan is a plan to fail” rings true. But the real question is: What are you planning for? What’s the point?

Let’s examine the second American priority: family. Did you know around 40% of families are blended ? Meanwhile, the nuclear family—a couple and their children, the so-called bedrock of society—makes up only 18% of U.S. households . Frankly, this is extremely upsetting. What does this imply? That people who can’t keep their vows are out there raising kids in broken homes, normalizing dysfunction. Divorce is twice as likely in blended families, and we wonder why society’s crumbling. 

The “family” value so many cling to? It's bullshit. As a second-generation Italian, I was raised with the belief that “Blood is thicker than water.” You live and die for your family. But let’s be real—boys with just enough sense to cum but not enough to stay and be fathers are ruining lives. And that’s not about race—it’s about men who run from responsibility. It's pathetic. 

So, what’s the point of life? Is it all about career?

Heaven does exist on earth—in the form of opportunities. Most opportunities come through two channels: money or relationships. Money accelerates success; relationships test endurance. But money often outlasts relationships, depending on our relationship with money. 

So, is money the point of life?

Yes.

Let’s revisit the claim, “My relationship with God gets me through life.” The church's marketing has masked some sinister truths. Its persistent message of hope—intangible “forgiveness/blood”—and its tax-exempt status prop up the Evangelical Industrial Complex. Organized Religion is a business, plain and simple. The Church wouldn't survive without funding. And those humans “doing good” often have access to resources. Of course, dear reader, you are entitled to your opinion but it won’t do you much good if you are lacking stability. 

What is the pinnacle resource few achieve in this life? A happy, secure family. But that family isn’t possible without money. Financial instability destroys rational thought. A person who can’t solve problems with their mind becomes the problem, even dangerous. So, we “do things” to “earn money.” That money supports the family, that family supports the church, and the church reinforces hope. Heaven becomes our behavior modifier, giving us the fulfillment we crave—if we’re not screwed over by people who reject God and heaven, or worse, those who claim to believe but still betray us.

Then what? We lose trust. Which brings us full circle—back to making money to afford therapy, to heal, to trust again, so we can make better decisions. Those decisions shape our experiences. You get the picture.

God is good. But you need to prioritize who you are going to be in this lifetime, and whether that identity will earn you legacy money. That’s the kind of wealth that changes the world, funds universities, and creates opportunities to experience everything life has to offer.

I’m not done. I’m not abandoning you at this point in the article like other guru’s do in order to set you up for a “sale”. 
I’m here to tell you the real secret: Attraction beats promotion.

You choose a skill set in an industry. Then you dominate that space. There are winners and losers in life. Winning once and taking home the trophy isn’t enough—you’ve got to live to win, or you die trying. And winning attracts everything you want in life as well as what you need because winning is a devotional act. 

I don’t work with losers. I don’t work with the broke. I don’t resurrect the broken because that’s an illusion constructed by the ego in order to garner sympathy as a substitute for empowerment! Hence, I don’t “fix” people, which has become an industry standard. What I do is grab the competitor by the neck, scream a warrior’s battle cry in their face, and feed them the strategy they need to become a living legend that will leave a rich legacy. 

Don’t tell me what you care about—show me you want to win.



The stats cited come from the following sources:

1. 63% of Americans identifying as Christian: This comes from Pew Research Center, which regularly surveys religious affiliation in the U.S.
2. 40% of families are blended: This statistic can be attributed to a report from the Stepfamily Foundation, which monitors family structures in the U.S.
3. 18% of U.S. households are nuclear families: This is based on data from the U.S. Census Bureau.

I established my private practice in 2012, a year after I graduated with my Masters in Counseling Psychology. 
A gratitude is owed to the veterans, DV survivors, at risk youth,
individuals in recovery, divorcing couples, and every single client I had the privilege of serving. 
If it were not for their stories & their bravery, I would be naïve about life.
Instead, I've been gifted a unfettered perspective of what is required to have peace of mind. 
It is that very vantage point that has afforded me the confidence to provide exceptional insight
for unique clients who value: dignity, trust, partnership, and freedom. 

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