Do you care about your life?
“The human race is a monotonous affair. Most people spend the greatest part of their time working in order to live, and what little freedom remains so fills them with fear that they seek out any and every means to be rid of it.”
― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, The Sorrows of Young Werther
Freedom is a daunting concept for many people. In fact, many of us have “upper-limit” problems when it comes to freedom because we need guardrails in order to be successful. But, instead of realizing we need guardrails, we create limitations instead. In fact, there are three common tools of limitation we all unwittingly employ because we don’t know how to intelligently manage freedom. In other words, we do stupid shit.
Denial creates way more issues than it solves. That’s a no brainer in more ways that one.
Fear driving decisions creates disasters. “If you make decisions in desperate times you get desperate results.”
Stupidity is defined as having the knowledge of what to do in order to be better but refusing that awareness and even worse, not acting on it.
A person has to be willing to be responsible for every decision he or she makes no matter how horrible the outcomes are in order to invite freedom into their lives. This is a skill that has to be cultivated through experience. And experience comes from playing the long-game.
So what are the fundamentals of playing the long game?
In my experience, three things need to happen to combat doing stupid shit.
The first thing is we need more than motivation or goals. We need a compelling vision that creates momentum. This means that our actions and our values line up. If we want to be sexy AF then we join a gym, craft a program that works for the outcomes we want, and do that with consistency so that we are both healthy and sexy.
The second thing the long-game requires is “recycling your pain.” That’s a concept I learned from Eric Thomas who is a top paid motivational speaker. He was once homeless and turned that test into a testimony that became a best selling book. This means that rather than avoid pain, we listen to it. We “lean in” and ask, “What can I learn here?” Then we apply the virtue of tenacity to solving the problem so that we don't’ collapse in the face of adversity; we rise from the ashes.
The third aspect that is required to win the long-game is health. Fuck everything if you are not mentally, physically, and financially healthy. No amount of strategy will matter if you can’t self-direct your health. This is especially true if you have a diagnosis that needs very specific behaviors in order to stave off adverse effects.
Trust that I have interacted with thousands of people who won’t ever live beyond just surviving life. They won’t accomplish greatness. They will die before they ever really live. That’s not who you are. If you hire me as your coach, you are the type of person who will develop the skills to play the long-game and win.
I’m here for that! Reach out.
Text “Long-game” to 303-917-7226.”
I look forward to guiding you to understand the meaning of your life!